It wasn’t fair, but I was a late bloomer. In other words, I was an easy target for cruel remarks in my younger years. I’ll never forget the time our high school chorus teacher asked me to sing a few lines of a song we were working on. She (naively) pointed out to all my (snickering) peers how fascinating it was that my voice hadn’t changed yet! Sadly, she had no clue that I would be the brunt of many cruel jokes for weeks afterward.
The ridicule from my high school basketball teammates wasn’t fair either. As a freshman, I started out as the scrawniest kid on the team. Taking showers in the locker room with the older guys who had gone through puberty years ahead of me often brought condescending remarks. I figured the best tactic to avoid the insults was to sneak out of the locker room after practice without taking a shower. Unfortunately, my well-meaning (also naive) coach quickly put a stop to that! He wasn’t about to have anyone on his team go home with body odor!
Fast forward several years after graduating from college. I had a wife, a son, and was a licensed, experienced, and professional pilot. I remember picking up one of my first air taxi clients only to hear something like, “Are you sure you are old enough to fly this airplane?” I assured him that I was and was eventually able to prove my competency to his satisfaction. Nonetheless, his sarcasm had taken its toll.
Fast forward several years later. The embarrassing remarks had disappeared and some encouraging ones had begun to surface. I was pleasantly surprised to learn that my previous pain had somehow turned into a present gain! The flip side to all those old insults was new complements. Interestingly, neither was deserved. Once again, it wasn’t fair; I had absolutely nothing to do with this characteristic of the way God had created me.
I have a suspicion that you may have at least a characteristic (or two) that you are not happy about and that you have no control over. Right now you may have a hard time seeing the possibility of any silver lining behind the painful clouds swirling around your life. For mysterious reasons beyond understanding, you may face more than your fair share of circumstances that appear unfair.
Do trials, especially the ones that you have no control over, indicate God is not in control, or that He doesn’t care? I think not. God not only has the ability to see silver linings you can’t, He can make them a reality. All things work together for the good of those who love God.
Trying times are a fact of life. We can complain that they aren’t fair and feel sorry for ourselves. Or, we can cooperate with God as He does His refining work in our lives. Let’s have confidence in the wisdom and goodness of our Heavenly Father. One day the silver lining will appear.
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What a wonderful message and so true. Like the song you use to sing, that I loved,…He who began a good work in me….will be faithful to complete it. God is so good and I’m so happy that He continues working in and through us. Veronica